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If you wouldn't try to use those extra examples to interpret the first story, I could totally agree with your point of view which the first story revealed.

“我为什么要让他决定我的行为?" You don't need to care if you can bring happiness to a newpaper vendor who is not necessarily your source of happiness. but you care about those people related to you. You want to see your boss satisfied with your hardwork. You want to see your contribution to your family makes your beloved ones happy, don't you?! You don't share a key with a newspaper vendor, but a lot of time you share one of the keys with you family, your colleagues and boss. The first story tells us: don't expect your keys will open all the doors,
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  • 枫下拾英 / 美文转贴 / 快乐的钥匙(ZT)
    本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛一位知名作家和朋友在报摊上买报纸,那朋友礼貌地对报贩说了声“谢谢”,但报贩却冷口冷脸,没发一言。
    “这家伙态度很差,是不是?”他们继续前行时,作家问道:“他每天都是这样的。”朋友道。
    “那你为什么对他那么客气?”作家问朋友。朋友答道:“我为什么和要让他决定我的行为?”

    每个人心中都有把快乐的钥匙,但我们却常在不知不觉中把它交给别人掌管。

    一位女士抱怨:“我活得很不快乐,因为先生常出差不在家。”她把快乐的钥匙放在先生手里。
    一位妈妈说:“我的孩子不听话,叫我很生气!”她把快乐的钥匙交在孩子手中。
    一个男人说:“上司不赏识我,所以我情绪低落!”他的快乐钥匙被攥在老板手里。
    一位婆婆说:“我的媳妇不孝顺,我真命苦!”
    一个年轻年从文具店走出来说:“那位老板服务态度恶劣,把我气炸了!”

    这些人都做了相同的决定,就是让别人来控制他的心情。

    当我们容许别人掌控我们的情绪时,我们便觉得自己是受害者,对现状无能为力,抱怨与愤怒成为我们惟一的选择。我们开始怪罪他人,并且传达一个讯息:我这样痛苦,都是你造成的!此时,我们就把重大的责任托给周围的人,即要求他们使我们快乐。这样的人使别人不喜难欢接近,甚至望而生畏。

    但一个成熟的人能把握住自己快乐的钥匙,他不期待别人使他快乐,反而能将快乐与幸福带给别人。别人在他的得到快乐与幸福的同时,他又不期然地得到了别人幸福与快乐的回馈。这样的人情绪稳定,为自己负责,和他在一起是种享受,而不是压力。你快乐的钥匙在哪里?如果在别人手中,快去把它拿回来吧!更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
    • Couldn't agree more.
    • 自欺欺人。人不是活在真空中,难到你不想看到周围的人快乐吗?难到你可以不在乎你的老板对你评价、你的先生(妻子)对你的感情(etc)面独自“快乐”吗?
      • 我想这里告诉我们的应该不是这个意思吧???只是有时侯人应该多去想想生活美好的一面就是了,而不是单纯地被忧伤迷了眼睛而看不到生活的美丽.
        • 这是海市蜃楼的理想境界。我的意思的不太可能
          • 你做不到,只能说明你修为未到
            • 我好象看到芙蓉哥哥了。
    • Hao wen!
    • Quite True. But hard to practise.
    • Good. Mature mind means a lot...
    • If you wouldn't try to use those extra examples to interpret the first story, I could totally agree with your point of view which the first story revealed.
      “我为什么要让他决定我的行为?" You don't need to care if you can bring happiness to a newpaper vendor who is not necessarily your source of happiness. but you care about those people related to you. You want to see your boss satisfied with your hardwork. You want to see your contribution to your family makes your beloved ones happy, don't you?! You don't share a key with a newspaper vendor, but a lot of time you share one of the keys with you family, your colleagues and boss. The first story tells us: don't expect your keys will open all the doors,
    • 写得很真实, 当有一些生活体验的时候, 会有更多的共鸣.