First, you have to make sure your counterpart did something wrong or potentially wrong, based on North American standard rather than the Chinese standards you have learned before.
-iamnotsure(ilovehiking);
2010-8-10(#6221489@0)
Secondly, you have to stay calm and remember it is a communication rather than an argument. Express youself clearly and in a good manner.
-iamnotsure(ilovehiking);
2010-8-10(#6221490@0)
I AM calm. Isn't that the point?
-sandao(三刀);
2010-8-10(#6221495@0)
You are calm. What i am talking is regarding to the general rules rather than for your situation. Of course, all the issues are different and we should use a different approach.
-iamnotsure(ilovehiking);
2010-8-10(#6221501@0)
sorry to disappoint you. but you are talking trash.
-sandao(三刀);
2010-8-10(#6221502@0)
这话太虚,不PROBE你怎么知道对方怎么回事,而且象这种小事,主要的目的是PREVENT继续恶化,没有必要去究其根本。所以你要传递给对方”I am watching you"的信息,而不是“I am fvcking you“。不然就不会那么礼貌周到了。
-sandao(三刀);
2010-8-10(#6221492@0)
此话有理。
-zzhang(zz);
2010-8-10(#6221496@0)
Read my sencond suggestion before you say so.
-iamnotsure(ilovehiking);
2010-8-10(#6221498@0)
You suggested nothing. Nothing that is clear/detail/concrete enough that provide any value anyway.
-sandao(三刀);
2010-8-10{164}(#6221500@0)
Don't BS me pal. When I was in B-School, this kinda of vague trash talking was the first slap the professor throw back on my face. Get some education and get real.
We are not discussing a particular issue. it is only regarding the usual steps to confront another person. BTW, I feel you are agressive and question if you can stay calm or not during the time of confrontation
-iamnotsure(ilovehiking);
2010-8-10(#6221505@0)
It is based on my personal experience and insight rather than memory anyone else's theory. Unfortunately, it does help in the real world.
-iamnotsure(ilovehiking);
2010-8-10(#6221523@0)
你可以跟儿子说,明天老师再对你吼,让她跟老师说,Ms Claire,you just screamed at me, you probably did not realize that. Are you OK? ..... do you feel better now?....很多说法,看你儿子怎么应对了。孩子要学吧。
-x888(我是木匠的儿子);
2010-8-10(#6221526@0)
This is another approach to solve the same problem and I think I have to support this one. Well said!
-iamnotsure(ilovehiking);
2010-8-10(#6221532@0)
刚才不好意思拂三八的好意,其实这种事情,我这个老粗的标准答案:“Hey!! What are you doing? Why are you talking to my son? If you got something to say, say it to me. You got nothing to say, you bite your fvcking tongue." 俺不斯文啊,太野蛮了,太野蛮了。
-sandao(三刀);
2010-8-11(#6221925@0)
“你可以跟儿子说,明天老师再对你吼,让她跟老师说,Ms Claire,you just screamed at me, you probably did not realize that. Are you OK? ..... do you feel better now?....很多说法,看你儿子怎么应对了。孩子要学吧。 “ -x888(我是木匠的儿子); 8.10 20:18 (#6221526@0)
Body language and expression account for 70% of the message in a face to face communication. 这么简单的知识不用我教你吧?cool dude?
-sandao(三刀);
2010-8-10(#6221590@0)