我们各自的婚姻都不是出轨出墙的原因，而是因为男人女人好朋友是很难做到一直柏拉图的，我们不小心fall in love，“发乎情止于礼”难度很大，一开始也很困惑烦恼，因为这和自己本来对自己的看法很不一致（我们在别人眼里都是好妈妈好爸爸好配偶）。上床前我们讨论过我们的存在会给双方家庭带来什么影响，是不是该分手，结论是分不了（是的，爱和性是很难舍的），但不能由于我们而影响我们和各自配偶的关系，结论是我们要保持和各自配偶的精神交流（不同性质和内容的交流）和性生活，而且各自配偶一定是第一位的关系，我们的关系是第二位的。这一年来我们都很愉快，不觉得内疚，因为我们的存在不但丰富了我们自己的人生，而且由于我们的存在，我们和各自配偶的关系都更融洽。
Who can judge if it is a good thing in the big scheme to fall in love at the wrong time? Sigh. :)
-thetigergirl(tigeress);
2010-1-20(#5823519@0)
I am no judge here...........I find it's easy to understand. :-)
-babyface(lol - 狂奔的蜗牛);
2010-1-20(#5823523@0)
like one day, if your husband finds out, and how he would react.............I understand him too. :-)
-babyface(lol - 狂奔的蜗牛);
2010-1-20(#5823525@0)
I do too. After all we are all human. :)
-thetigergirl(tigeress);
2010-1-20(#5823542@0)
嗯。
-babyface(lol - 狂奔的蜗牛);
2010-1-20(#5823546@0)
Thank you. Not that I am looking for understanding on an Internet forum, but it helps to have some humane ears before more harsh and self-righteous comments that are certainly coming my way. :)
-thetigergirl(tigeress);
2010-1-20(#5823528@0)
the difficult part for them is to know when to end it before it is too late, which is almost impossible, take a look at Tiger's situation.
-l2u(Hi);
2010-1-20(#5823951@0)
it was long time ago. dont have that quiz now.
there are 4 types of ppl: by setmefree (海棠不依旧) at 2010.1.21 14:41 (#5825969@0)
-setmefree(海棠不依旧);
2010-1-21{183}(#5826268@0)
1. cheating毫无犯罪感的；
2. cheating有犯罪感，但管不住自己的；
3. 有贼心没贼胆的；
4. 对cheating深恶痛绝的，如果自己的心上人cheating，会恨之入骨, 咬牙切齿的。。。
which type r u?
LZ说的“已经尽力善待双方配偶了”，又说“marriage is public, love is private"。对她，marriage & love是两回事。婚姻是个拿得出手的面子，而偷情是私密快乐的里子，任何一样她都舍不得。如果她的婚姻面子里子俱全，那也不用偷情了。
-mimoxiaoyun(小云 serendipity);
2010-1-22{320}(#5828575@0)